Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-03-28

Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-03-21

  • Ok. Well why don't you just hang out w us in the chatroom then? We'll get you back some sunny day soon. #
  • Sorry, last tweet was meant to go Direct. Nothing to see here, folks, move along… #
  • @sapphirefires Why not at all! Sorry to get to this late, I'm a bit slow. Drop me a DM and we can go from there! in reply to sapphirefires #
  • @writingdirty By & large, when bothering to assign gender or sex to Elder Gods, Shub Niggurath is considered to be of the female persuasion. in reply to writingdirty #
  • @writingdirty Wikipedia also seems to be telling me that Shub Niggurath is a Great Old One rather than an Elder God. Humph. in reply to writingdirty #
  • Starting to plan my #KFASF pres: "Why #I #Talk About #Sex All the Time, and Why I Think #You #Should #Too." What are other people planning? #
  • @raxvulpine Very likely I will not only videotape it but also live broadcast it! I'm glad you're interested! #KFASF in reply to raxvulpine #
  • Oh, @maymaym, who really does understand your sex life? Or their own for that matter… 😉 in reply to maymaym #
  • @MollyRen Occasionally they are assigned sex/gender, but it's sort of … unfathomable, I think. in reply to MollyRen #
  • Dear Universe: Today was a good day. I'd take more like it. Thanks! #
  • Today I found out @maymaym has a watchdog that spawns daemons, four at a time! I had no idea #webdev was so #epic. #
  • Last week to vote for my IWHC contest proposal SexEdEverywhere! just 1-click: Why you should vote: #
  • Today, I got my hair cut, paid for it, left, & walked directly to another salon in the same mall to see if they could fix the damage. #
  • @sarahdopp @mollyren First 1 tried to shorten my buzz in back w/ scissors as apparently the salon had one set of clippers, no guards for it. in reply to sarahdopp #
  • @MollyRen @sarahdopp Went to second salon, which had clippers. Better now. And oth together cost less than my usual place, so it's ok. in reply to MollyRen #
  • @Adisson89 Hugs and cuddles, Sweet Pea! Feel better! in reply to Adisson89 #

Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-03-14

  • My friends are discussing how one might vocally communicate in Python, & its relative merits to English. /sigh cc @maymaym #
  • Listening to @maymaym talking LIVE on the radio about #KFASF and beyond! Listen in at #
  • New post at – the #gingerbread recipe I mentioned in my #KFAPVD talk: And why I love it SO MUCH. #
  • Prepping for @KinkOnTap, I learn about #female #condoms and #sexy #snowladies. This should be a fun show! #
  • @adrianlang Thank you for saying so. I seldom expect my personal journeys to be of much interest to the wider world. in reply to adrianlang #
  • It's International Women's Day and all I got was this lousy 80 cents to every dollar a male employee makes. #
  • RT @KinkOnTap: Fresh from the tap: Kink On Tap 31: Delightfully Flawed People #
  • Just 1 click will help empower youth to SEE & share their #sexual #health #knowledge:! Vote and please, spread the word! #
  • It's funny how my personal demons like to dress up and pretend to be other people. Stop it! Nobody thinks those things about me but me! #
  • What can be better than your best friend responding to your actions with "Danger Will Robinson, DANGER" & then immediately signing offline? #
  • @tylerthepup You could do a light tomato, like a tomato-cream sauce? Or some kinda pesto? in reply to tylerthepup #
  • I will not do anything I dread as much as I dread doing my laundry tonight. I can make it till Saturday, and it ain't worth it tonight. #
  • @MrMadman It's not the laundry I hate, it's the florescent lighting and the three different TVs and the waiting with nothing to do. Lonely. in reply to MrMadman #
  • @MrMadman I'll do that. On Saturday. in reply to MrMadman #
  • @sarahdopp I know that feeling! Cleaning my room is my favorite form of procrastination, and the only form that actually helps! in reply to sarahdopp #
  • @Adisson89 I know precisely what you mean. Fight it with me, Bight Eyes. in reply to Adisson89 #
  • @Adisson89 I'll see you another time. We'll make it work. If we want it, we can do anything. in reply to Adisson89 #
  • @Adisson89 Yeah, that's pretty grand. I miss things going down like that. (PS you should come to #KFADC2 anyway) in reply to Adisson89 #
  • @Adisson89 Boo on that, but I do understand, Dearheart. in reply to Adisson89 #
  • @maymaym What's worse than your excitable confusion is the fact that I independently confirmed that 6/12/2010 meant June 6th. Well done, us. in reply to maymaym #
  • @sarahdopp Lady I haven't missed a #KFA yet, & I don't intend to start now. I'll see you at #KFASF, & if I'm lucky I'll see @adisson89 too! in reply to sarahdopp #
  • Fuck you, Sadness. You stay away from me and from all of my friends. This is NOT COOL, man. Not cool. #
  • When I find myself in times of trouble, Wkipedia pictures of varietal gingerbread comfort me … #
  • @maymaym Take good care of yourself, Sweet Boy. I'm doing the same. in reply to maymaym #
  • Empower #youth to spread knowledge of sexual #rights! Vote for SexEdEverywhere w/1 click at Tell your friends! #
  • I have been brought joy, and thus, I share it with you: #JOY! (Except for #Batman, who does not look joyful at all) #
  • Menu for the evening: Orecchiette w/ green pea & asparagus ragout, roasted butternut squash w/ balsamic vinegar, poached pears, gingerbread. #
  • Awesome!! RT @KinkForAll: KinkForAll San Francisco on #KFASF #

Why I Love Gingerbread

At KinkForAll Providence, I spoke about sensuality and joy, and I mentioned how I love baking gingerbread in part because of how it perfumes my apartment. And that’s true. That is part of why I love gingerbread. But it doesn’t begin to cover it.

Gingerbread – this gingerbread, made with this recipe*, with lemon drizzle icing – is probably my ideal desert. I love  fancy deserts like creme brulee and seasonal treats like berries and cream, but I would eat gingerbread any time of day, any time of year. In fact, I’d eat it several times of day. It is the perfect teacake for an old fashioned tea party, with little watercress and cucumber sandwiches. It is delicious on a hot summer afternoon with a big glass of minted lemonade or iced tea, but I crave it most of all in the winter time, when that warm, deep spice strikes a cord of home and safety within me.

The truly brilliant thing about this gingerbread is that it is one of the few deserts I can make and eat all by myself. This is because its so moist that properly covered it will last as much as a week (if you can keep away from it that long), and as it sits, the flavors mellow and it gets denser and – if anything – even better. I find a slice of gingerbread a marvelous breakfast, afternoon snack, desert, and treat before dinner. Bit by bit it all disappears, and then I smoosh the crumbs together, gobble them up and check to see if I’ve got the ingredients to make gingerbread again this week.

Damp Gingerbread

You Will Need

  • 1 1/2 sticks unsalted butter (plus a bit for greasing)
  • 1 1/4 cups Lyle’s Golden Syrup**
  • 1/4 cup molasses
  • 2 1/2 cups all purpose flour
  • ½ tsp salt
  • 1¾ tsp baking soda
  • Ground Ginger To Taste***
  • ½ tsp ground cloves
  • ¼ ground cinnamon
  • 1 egg, beaten with
  • 1 cup whole milk


  • Small pot or sauce pan
  • Large mixing bowl
  • 9 inch round cake plate or spring form pan
  • Wooden spoon
  • Whisk
  • Measuring cups
  • Parchment paper

Preheat your oven to 340 degrees (f). Coat the inside of your cake pan with butter, making sure to get the corners and sides well covered. Line the bottom of the pan with a circle of parchment paper cut to fit.

Melt the butter, Lyle’s and molasses in your saucepan until combined. Combine flour, baking soda, salt, ginger, cinnamon and cloves and whisk until entirely combined and free of any lumps – a little longer than you think you need to whisk it. Pour in the butter and syrup combination and mix with wooden spoon until smooth. Add the milk and egg and mix again, starting slowly, until smooth and combined.

Pour into prepared pan and bake for between 45 and 60 minutes, until a knife inserted into the middle comes out clean.

I think this is particularly delicious with lemon drizzle icing, for which you need:

  • The juice of 1 lemon
  • 1 cup confectioners sugar
  • bowl to mix in
  • fork to mix with

Place the confectioners sugar in the bowl and add lemon juice, a little bit at a time, until it becomes a thick paste – you will only need a few teaspoons of juice.

When the cake is cool, remove from it’s pan and set on plate. Pour the icing over the top so that it will drip down the sides relatively evenly, let sit until the icing has set a bit, and enjoy – all day, every day, until it disappears.

* This recipe comes from Laurie Colwin’s “More Home Cooking” one of my favorite books by arguably my favorite food writer. She says that she got it from Delia Smith’s “Book of Cakes,” and made a few adjustments, and I have made a few adjustments of my own.

** Lyle’s Golden Syrup is a British light treacle. It has the consistency of molasses with a golden color a little darker and richer than honey.  It’s available in most American grocery stores in the either in the International Aisle or with other syrups. If you can’t find it, you can replace it with light cane syrup (not corn syrup) or all molasses (this will make a much darker, more strongly flavored cake). I have used all of these options, and find that the combination of Lyle’s and molasses listed here is far and away the best – but they are all good.

*** I like my gingerbread pretty spicy, so I use about 2 tablespoons of ginger. You can use as little as a 2 teaspoons or as much as you like – make a batch, see what you think, and adjust it for next time.

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