- At #kfasf, waiting for #opening #coms. Excited! We've gone #nationwide! #
- At #kfasf, @maymaym starts #opening #EC. Here we go! #
- Psyched to hear @sarahdopp tell us all about #genderfork! #kfasf #
- More people are trickling in to #kfasf. Just in time for my pres! #
- Johanna talks about the #Ugandan #Antihomosexuality #bill. A really important, scary topic. #kfasf #
- Terrifying what can happen when #American #evangelists spread their message of #hate beyond our borders. #kfasf #
- Johanna mentions the conversation about #Uganda that we had on @kinkontap. Says our #joking may be a sign of feeling #helpless. She's right. #
- Lunch is over. Now we talk #sex #toys with Alisa. #kfasf #
- Listening tn @Im_jon talk about #controlling the #male #orgasm. I admire his #clarity of #language. #kfasf #
- But, @maymaym, what about the people in #Uganda who don't have #access to TOR or any other #software? We need #lowtech #solutions. #kfasf #
- Your data trail tells a story about you that isn't the story you might've lived. – @ioerror #kfasf #
- About to broadcast @kinkontap #LIVE from the Women's Building in San Francisco, following an #awesome time at #KFASF. Come chat with us! #
- @damsorrow 7 hours late I tell you I admired you from afar (and a-nearer, when I got there) all through college. You are a glamorous lady! in reply to damsorrow #
- Spent afternoon helping a young Dominican #mom of 3 w/ a paper abt why #sex #ed should be in #elementary #school. Feeling #joyous, #hopeful! #
- RT @maymaym: Last day to vote for SexEdEverywhere at http://j.mp/seeiwhc Attackers misquote us, dropping "#education" after "#sexuality". #
- The young mom I helped on her #Sex #Ed in #Elementary #Schools paper is back! I pull #web #resources for her – sites we bookmarked for #SEE. #
- @writingdirty I hope to see that presentation at a #KinkForAll event soon! #KFADC2 ? #KFANYC3 ? #KFABOS2 ? in reply to writingdirty #
- Excited to hear that http://bit.ly/dxsZA2 is a #finalist in IWHC #Young #Visionaries contest! Thanks to all who voted and congrats @maymaym! #
- Cold and a bit lonely, but I have a good opportunity to catch up on work. Which I can do sitting in front of the heater. So, joy for me! #
- It's midnight. I'm done with TV, not yet ready for sleep. What time is it? Orgasm time. #
- @HiOhMegan Oh boo I'm sorry! That's no fun at all! in reply to HiOhMegan #
- The inside of my refrigerator is a scary place right now. #
- @pledgemistress About my refrigerator? Really? Huh. I just need to clean, is all… in reply to pledgemistress #
- @pledgemistress I vote @maymaym is even #better than #clementines, as good as clementines are. in reply to pledgemistress #
Monthly Archives: March 2010
Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-03-21
- Ok. Well why don't you just hang out w us in the chatroom then? We'll get you back some sunny day soon. #
- Sorry, last tweet was meant to go Direct. Nothing to see here, folks, move along… #
- @sapphirefires Why not at all! Sorry to get to this late, I'm a bit slow. Drop me a DM and we can go from there! in reply to sapphirefires #
- @writingdirty By & large, when bothering to assign gender or sex to Elder Gods, Shub Niggurath is considered to be of the female persuasion. in reply to writingdirty #
- @writingdirty Wikipedia also seems to be telling me that Shub Niggurath is a Great Old One rather than an Elder God. Humph. in reply to writingdirty #
- Starting to plan my #KFASF pres: "Why #I #Talk About #Sex All the Time, and Why I Think #You #Should #Too." What are other people planning? #
- @raxvulpine Very likely I will not only videotape it but also live broadcast it! I'm glad you're interested! #KFASF in reply to raxvulpine #
- Oh, @maymaym, who really does understand your sex life? Or their own for that matter… 😉 in reply to maymaym #
- @MollyRen Occasionally they are assigned sex/gender, but it's sort of … unfathomable, I think. in reply to MollyRen #
- Dear Universe: Today was a good day. I'd take more like it. Thanks! #
- Today I found out @maymaym has a watchdog that spawns daemons, four at a time! I had no idea #webdev was so #epic. #
- Last week to vote for my IWHC contest proposal SexEdEverywhere! just 1-click: http://bit.ly/cT6KSt Why you should vote: http://bit.ly/aHYbCN #
- Today, I got my hair cut, paid for it, left, & walked directly to another salon in the same mall to see if they could fix the damage. #
- @sarahdopp @mollyren First 1 tried to shorten my buzz in back w/ scissors as apparently the salon had one set of clippers, no guards for it. in reply to sarahdopp #
- @MollyRen @sarahdopp Went to second salon, which had clippers. Better now. And oth together cost less than my usual place, so it's ok. in reply to MollyRen #
- @Adisson89 Hugs and cuddles, Sweet Pea! Feel better! in reply to Adisson89 #
Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-03-14
- My friends are discussing how one might vocally communicate in Python, & its relative merits to English. /sigh cc @maymaym #
- Listening to @maymaym talking LIVE on the radio about #KFASF and beyond! Listen in at http://bit.ly/9b1sTQ #
- New post at http://bit.ly/4Z8QTv – the #gingerbread recipe I mentioned in my #KFAPVD talk: http://bit.ly/bgACBJ. And why I love it SO MUCH. #
- Prepping for @KinkOnTap, I learn about #female #condoms and #sexy #snowladies. This should be a fun show! #
- @adrianlang Thank you for saying so. I seldom expect my personal journeys to be of much interest to the wider world. in reply to adrianlang #
- It's International Women's Day and all I got was this lousy 80 cents to every dollar a male employee makes. #
- RT @KinkOnTap: Fresh from the tap: Kink On Tap 31: Delightfully Flawed People http://bit.ly/arHVXu #
- Just 1 click will help empower youth to SEE & share their #sexual #health #knowledge: http://j.mp/seeiwhc! Vote and please, spread the word! #
- It's funny how my personal demons like to dress up and pretend to be other people. Stop it! Nobody thinks those things about me but me! #
- What can be better than your best friend responding to your actions with "Danger Will Robinson, DANGER" & then immediately signing offline? #
- @tylerthepup You could do a light tomato, like a tomato-cream sauce? Or some kinda pesto? in reply to tylerthepup #
- I will not do anything I dread as much as I dread doing my laundry tonight. I can make it till Saturday, and it ain't worth it tonight. #
- @MrMadman It's not the laundry I hate, it's the florescent lighting and the three different TVs and the waiting with nothing to do. Lonely. in reply to MrMadman #
- @MrMadman I'll do that. On Saturday. in reply to MrMadman #
- @sarahdopp I know that feeling! Cleaning my room is my favorite form of procrastination, and the only form that actually helps! in reply to sarahdopp #
- @Adisson89 I know precisely what you mean. Fight it with me, Bight Eyes. in reply to Adisson89 #
- @Adisson89 I'll see you another time. We'll make it work. If we want it, we can do anything. in reply to Adisson89 #
- @Adisson89 Yeah, that's pretty grand. I miss things going down like that. (PS you should come to #KFADC2 anyway) in reply to Adisson89 #
- @Adisson89 Boo on that, but I do understand, Dearheart. in reply to Adisson89 #
- @maymaym What's worse than your excitable confusion is the fact that I independently confirmed that 6/12/2010 meant June 6th. Well done, us. in reply to maymaym #
- @sarahdopp Lady I haven't missed a #KFA yet, & I don't intend to start now. I'll see you at #KFASF, & if I'm lucky I'll see @adisson89 too! in reply to sarahdopp #
- Fuck you, Sadness. You stay away from me and from all of my friends. This is NOT COOL, man. Not cool. #
- When I find myself in times of trouble, Wkipedia pictures of varietal gingerbread comfort me … http://bit.ly/cwqah9) #
- @maymaym Take good care of yourself, Sweet Boy. I'm doing the same. in reply to maymaym #
- Empower #youth to spread knowledge of sexual #rights! Vote for SexEdEverywhere w/1 click at IWHC.org: http://j.mp/seeiwhc Tell your friends! #
- I have been brought joy, and thus, I share it with you: http://bit.ly/alaKv6 #JOY! (Except for #Batman, who does not look joyful at all) #
- Menu for the evening: Orecchiette w/ green pea & asparagus ragout, roasted butternut squash w/ balsamic vinegar, poached pears, gingerbread. #
- Awesome!! RT @KinkForAll: KinkForAll San Francisco on Examiner.com: http://tinyurl.com/yl8kphn #KFASF #
Why I Love Gingerbread
At KinkForAll Providence, I spoke about sensuality and joy, and I mentioned how I love baking gingerbread in part because of how it perfumes my apartment. And that’s true. That is part of why I love gingerbread. But it doesn’t begin to cover it.
Gingerbread – this gingerbread, made with this recipe*, with lemon drizzle icing – is probably my ideal desert. I love  fancy deserts like creme brulee and seasonal treats like berries and cream, but I would eat gingerbread any time of day, any time of year. In fact, I’d eat it several times of day. It is the perfect teacake for an old fashioned tea party, with little watercress and cucumber sandwiches. It is delicious on a hot summer afternoon with a big glass of minted lemonade or iced tea, but I crave it most of all in the winter time, when that warm, deep spice strikes a cord of home and safety within me.
The truly brilliant thing about this gingerbread is that it is one of the few deserts I can make and eat all by myself. This is because its so moist that properly covered it will last as much as a week (if you can keep away from it that long), and as it sits, the flavors mellow and it gets denser and – if anything – even better. I find a slice of gingerbread a marvelous breakfast, afternoon snack, desert, and treat before dinner. Bit by bit it all disappears, and then I smoosh the crumbs together, gobble them up and check to see if I’ve got the ingredients to make gingerbread again this week.
Damp Gingerbread
You Will Need
- 1 1/2 sticks unsalted butter (plus a bit for greasing)
- 1 1/4 cups Lyle’s Golden Syrup**
- 1/4 cup molasses
- 2 1/2 cups all purpose flour
- ½ tsp salt
- 1¾ tsp baking soda
- Ground Ginger To Taste***
- ½ tsp ground cloves
- ¼ ground cinnamon
- 1 egg, beaten with
- 1 cup whole milk
AND
- Small pot or sauce pan
- Large mixing bowl
- 9 inch round cake plate or spring form pan
- Wooden spoon
- Whisk
- Measuring cups
- Parchment paper
Preheat your oven to 340 degrees (f). Coat the inside of your cake pan with butter, making sure to get the corners and sides well covered. Line the bottom of the pan with a circle of parchment paper cut to fit.
Melt the butter, Lyle’s and molasses in your saucepan until combined. Combine flour, baking soda, salt, ginger, cinnamon and cloves and whisk until entirely combined and free of any lumps – a little longer than you think you need to whisk it. Pour in the butter and syrup combination and mix with wooden spoon until smooth. Add the milk and egg and mix again, starting slowly, until smooth and combined.
Pour into prepared pan and bake for between 45 and 60 minutes, until a knife inserted into the middle comes out clean.
I think this is particularly delicious with lemon drizzle icing, for which you need:
- The juice of 1 lemon
- 1 cup confectioners sugar
- bowl to mix in
- fork to mix with
Place the confectioners sugar in the bowl and add lemon juice, a little bit at a time, until it becomes a thick paste – you will only need a few teaspoons of juice.
When the cake is cool, remove from it’s pan and set on plate. Pour the icing over the top so that it will drip down the sides relatively evenly, let sit until the icing has set a bit, and enjoy – all day, every day, until it disappears.
* This recipe comes from Laurie Colwin’s “More Home Cooking” one of my favorite books by arguably my favorite food writer. She says that she got it from Delia Smith’s “Book of Cakes,” and made a few adjustments, and I have made a few adjustments of my own.
** Lyle’s Golden Syrup is a British light treacle. It has the consistency of molasses with a golden color a little darker and richer than honey. Â It’s available in most American grocery stores in the either in the International Aisle or with other syrups. If you can’t find it, you can replace it with light cane syrup (not corn syrup) or all molasses (this will make a much darker, more strongly flavored cake). I have used all of these options, and find that the combination of Lyle’s and molasses listed here is far and away the best – but they are all good.
*** I like my gingerbread pretty spicy, so I use about 2 tablespoons of ginger. You can use as little as a 2 teaspoons or as much as you like – make a batch, see what you think, and adjust it for next time.
Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-03-07
- @SaraEileen I have no idea what that means. Clarify? in reply to SaraEileen #
- After hearing about #SexTech from @maymaym & talking up #SexEdEverywhere at my college, I grow ever more psyched about http://bit.ly/cT6KSt #
- Thinking of my own experience, seems baffling the term #FemDom is so used. #Dominance happens when #submission has been given 1st. #malesub. #
- Getting excited for @KinkOnTap tonight. We have a lot of really good articles from #Utah to #Nicaragua, #Olympics to #OK-Cupid. #
- RT @bigolpoofter: West Coast tweeps, check out KinkForAllSF 3/21, support as you are able a discourse on sexuality, etc http://tr.im/kfasf #
- RT @sarahdopp: Being silly is interesting. Being interesting is not silly. #
- RT @KinkForAll: Less than 3 weeks to KinkForAll San Francisco , 3/21 at the Women's Building! Coming? Sign up 1st! http://tr.im/kfasf #KFASF #
- RT @KinkForAll Can you donate $10 to make a sexuality unconference happen? http://tr.im/kfasf #KFASF has 4 days to raise $350 for venue cost #
- @Adisson89 I would do that. I used to love drawing on people. I did it constantly – others, myself. Skin was my medium. in reply to Adisson89 #
- @Adisson89 joy! in reply to Adisson89 #
- Want to #empower #youth to share their own #sexual health #knowledge? Help @maymaym and I reach 1000 votes before 3/25! http://j.mp/seeiwhc #
- @maymaym What a totally sweet thing to wake up to! I am still just-a-bit feverish and trying to figure out whether wok should happen today. in reply to maymaym #
- Clean after a few days of being too sick to shower. Playing hookie this morning, then to work for the afternoon. Then probably back to bed. #
- RT @dandelionjar: This food is problematic. http://bit.ly/biMHGs #
- I took my temperature SO MANY TIMES this morning. I know I am not feverish. So why do I FEEL feverish? #
- @Adisson89 Don't do that! It is good to take care of yourself!!! in reply to Adisson89 #
- @Adisson89 That blows. But you're allowed to be as grumpy as you want, so long as you don't actively sabotage the relationship. in reply to Adisson89 #
- @Adisson89 You got this, dear. It's totally possible to do both. Not always fun, but totally possible. in reply to Adisson89 #
- Hey, twitter folks I know, here's a question very much on my mind: What makes you take a #sickday? #Fever? Horrible #cough? #Vomiting only? #
- @siniful I wish working from home was an option! Well – it sort of is. When I'm sneaky. Thanks for clueing me in! in reply to siniful #
- RT @KinkForAll: You're invited to a sexuality+life unconference, 3/21 at the Women's Bldg.! http://tr.im/kfasf RT to invite others. #KFASF #
- @HiOhMegan Where's the Scurry Dog? That sounds cool! in reply to HiOhMegan #
- RT @KinkForAll: Have you signed up for KinkForAll San Francisco yet? It helps us guess #participation levels! http://tr.im/kfasf Thx! #KFASF #
- @HiOhMegan This is what happens when you tweet events! People, they listen! in reply to HiOhMegan #
- I am made of loneliness and wanting. #
- @MollyRen Lady, that's one up on me. in reply to MollyRen #
- @romanticrope Linguistically or culinarily? in reply to romanticrope #
- 7:25 AM I am awoken by a call from my landlady. Turns out some one is supposed to come this morning to fix something I already got fixed? #
- I feel like I live my life both in the present and in the future. If I could only get the bits in the right sections, I'd be ok. #
- @maymaym I'm pretty proud of you! http://bit.ly/dxsZA2 needs to reach a wide population from multiple linguistic backgrounds. Go you! in reply to maymaym #
- RT @maymaym: Dear all, please #smile at a stranger today. It's good for you, for them, and for our planet. Sincerely, everyone else. Thanks! #
- RT @KinkOnTap:More than a decade after the Lewinsky Scandal, Americans STILL don't know what "sex" means. HT @HiOhMegan http://bit.ly/cUU1uh #
- Zombie Malcolm X will Fuck You Up. #
- All my male friends agree with @maymaym: the #handjob is a highly #underated form of #sex. #